John, New York, 03 / 10 / 2009

I am having trouble when I have sex with my girlfriend...I always seem to ejaculate before she does and I need some advice about holding back and being able to let our sessions last longer. Sometimes, though, my girl is so sexy, I just can't hold back!

Peter's Answer

John, One word: Foreplay. Women desire foreplay and need it much more than men. However, there is also a great benefit to this foreplay for men that many men do not realize. Foreplay for men, allows men to reach an initial arousal stage PRIOR to the actual sex act. Reaching this initial arousal stage BEFORE you actually have sex, is ideal, because it gives you time to get aroused but not too aroused that you climax. The longer that you're hot and bothered, without climaxing, will definitely help you with your self-control. Along with this, when you do start having actual intercourse, and feel like you're going to ejaculate, change-up your position...(moving around into another position will take the edge off and you won't want to climax as fast). Last but not least, you can distract yourself from climaxing too soon, while having sex, by talking dirty to your partner, and telling her you don't want her to climax yet, which is subconsciously telling yourself that. Keeping it sexy with dirty talk can actually take your mind away from being too physically stimulated. Good luck, PN

H-Dizzle, USA, 03 / 10 / 2009

Peter, My roommate has been on a roll recently and has been meeting a whole lot women. He has even been hooking up with rich women who are buying him trips to Cancun. I am about to get married to a woman I think that I love but I see my roomate having all this fun and it is very stressful. Even my friends are telling me not to get married. As a porn star who has banged so many women in his life what do you suggest? Should I go for what I think is true love or should I keep banging women. Something I want you to factor into this equation is my girlfriend is way hotter than any of the women my roommate has been meeting.

Peter's Answer

H-Dizzle, You already answered your own question. Defintetly go with your heart and the bonus of that is she's hot as hell....how can you go wrong!? What more do you want in this world...true love ...more >>

Michelle, FL, 04 / 16 / 2007

my boyfriend and I have been trying to have anal sex (we only did it like 1/2 before), but it hurts too much. what can we do so that the pain decreases?

Peter's Answer

Because of the pain you experienced the first time that will always make you anxious and not relaxed. What you have to do, is have more foreplay and get into some regular sex to get heated up and tur...more >>

ryan, boc, 03 / 22 / 2007

Hello Peter. Ryan here. Ok, so like I am hanging out with this girl. Keyword, hanging...We are just friends and all we basically do is meet for coffee about twice a week. She has a boyfriend but is always calling me for the shoulder to cry on. I tried several times to make other plans than just coffee but she is always busy. Peter, she is hot! Big Breasts, firm body, she wears short skirts, make up, high heels, always smells good, she's a hottie, seriously. When at starbucks, all the other guys check her out. I am confident, but she sees me as only a friend. How do I get her to think of me as more then just a friend, and more then that how do I impress her with something other then stimulating coffee bar talk. Of course I often think about covering her face with you know what all the time...or even her breasts! but right now I settle for just making out with her. Thanks Peter.

Peter's Answer

Hey Ryan, Sounds like you got trapped in the friend zone. Your situation is «textbook». Somebody should write a book on how to stay far far away from this place. There are many reasons why you fou...more >>

Daniel, Toronto, 03 / 13 / 2007

Hi Peter, I’ve been married for a little over 2 years now. I love my wife, but our sex life is getting a little dull. Do you have any advice on how to spice things up in the bedroom? Thanks~!

Peter's Answer

Hi Daniel, This is a pretty common problem and I do have some advice for you. As time goes on, it’s natural that the things that once excited us become a bit more routine. If eaten for dinner ...more >>