Michelle, FL, 04 / 16 / 2007

my boyfriend and I have been trying to have anal sex (we only did it like 1/2 before), but it hurts too much. what can we do so that the pain decreases?

Peter's Answer

Because of the pain you experienced the first time that will always make you anxious and not relaxed. What you have to do, is have more foreplay and get into some regular sex to get heated up and turned on,then work into an anal position that is the most comfortable for you while you are stimulating your clitoris at the same time. You can't be apprehensive about it because you will be too tense and that makes it more difficult. Get yourself turned on about it,even if it takes watching some Anal Addict DVDs and seeing how these girls like it while handling it easily. Obviously have some lube on hand and it wouldn't hurt to practice with a butt plug. They also have some numbing lubes out there that you can look into and could really help. But i think the most important thing is to keep yourself stimulated while taking it slow. Just be patient and you will be fine.

ryan, boc, 03 / 22 / 2007

Hello Peter. Ryan here. Ok, so like I am hanging out with this girl. Keyword, hanging...We are just friends and all we basically do is meet for coffee about twice a week. She has a boyfriend but is always calling me for the shoulder to cry on. I tried several times to make other plans than just coffee but she is always busy. Peter, she is hot! Big Breasts, firm body, she wears short skirts, make up, high heels, always smells good, she's a hottie, seriously. When at starbucks, all the other guys check her out. I am confident, but she sees me as only a friend. How do I get her to think of me as more then just a friend, and more then that how do I impress her with something other then stimulating coffee bar talk. Of course I often think about covering her face with you know what all the time...or even her breasts! but right now I settle for just making out with her. Thanks Peter.

Peter's Answer

Hey Ryan, Sounds like you got trapped in the friend zone. Your situation is «textbook». Somebody should write a book on how to stay far far away from this place. There are many reasons why you fou...more >>

Daniel, Toronto, 03 / 13 / 2007

Hi Peter, I’ve been married for a little over 2 years now. I love my wife, but our sex life is getting a little dull. Do you have any advice on how to spice things up in the bedroom? Thanks~!

Peter's Answer

Hi Daniel, This is a pretty common problem and I do have some advice for you. As time goes on, it’s natural that the things that once excited us become a bit more routine. If eaten for dinner ...more >>